The Smile of Grace in Motherhood: Part 4

Editor's Note: This is the fourth in a four part Mother's Day series written by 2013 Daystar alumna and Daystar U.S. scholarship recipient, Dorcas Koome. Part 1 can be found HERE

Motherhood: The Place of Simple Joys

I am a lover of all things books. A friend recently narrated a scenario where thugs broke into their house at night while it was raining and made away with a few household items. They didn’t touch the books and they had placed a sum of money there intended to pay tithe. Interesting? I love reading. This is to me a simple joy that makes the journey of motherhood fun and fulfilling. Reading takes you to new worlds; you meet new people and stretch your imagination. After reading the book The Lady, Her Lover and Her Lord by Bishop TD Jakes, a balm was smoothed over my heart. Some of my wounds healed. I released myself wholly to God – it was unbelievable that things that had overstayed were swept in a flash. See these words:

Who can restore what life has taken out of you, but God? Who can remind you of what God has promised you, but you? You are your own preacher and occasionally you must say the kind of speech to yourself that enables you to be productive and accomplished. (The Lady, Her Lover and Her Lord, pg 11)

Words are powerful whether written or spoken and I believe every mother needs the constant reassurance of her role and her potential which when released to God’s hand blossoms ever so beautifully. Last year I read the books by Francine Rivers, Her Mother's Hope and Her Daughters Dream. How the web of shame and guilt entangled the relationships of moms and their daughters (of course this affected the sons and husbands involved). Many bad things happened. But good things happened in the midst of it all. Dreams were fulfilled. Hopes were born. God was at the center with a magnificent plan, A GOOD PLAN. To give a FUTURE and a HOPE - an expected end.

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Look for those simple joys that will make your journey in motherhood fun and take away some of the heaviness when you have had all you could take.

As I end, I would love to dedicate this song by William Cowper to all moms and wish you a HAPPY MOTHERS DAY! YOU ARE WORTHY OF THE CALLING IN MOTHERHOOD.

God moves in a mysterious way

His wonders to perform;

He plants His footsteps in the sea

And rides upon the storm.

Deep in unfathomable mines

Of never failing skill

He treasures up His bright designs

And works His sov’reign will.

Ye fearful saints, fresh courage take;

The clouds ye so much dread

Are big with mercy and shall break

In blessings on your head.

Judge not the Lord by feeble sense,

But trust Him for His grace;

Behind a frowning providence

He hides a smiling face.

His purposes will ripen fast,

Unfolding every hour;

The bud may have a bitter taste,

But sweet will be the flow’r.

Blind unbelief is sure to err

And scan His work in vain;

God is His own interpreter,

And He will make it plain.


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Dorcas Koome

An advocate of hope, a wife, mother, lover of children, homemaking and photography - a child of God. Dorcas is married to Steve. Her passion is in speaking the heart of God to broken, wounded hearts all around shaped by low self-esteem, rejection and loss of identity. After overcoming a bout of depression and hopelessness, she decided to focus on encouraging and challenging single and married women to find their worth in God and keep showing up knowing that even behind the perceived or real closed doors, God is always working to fulfill the good plans He has for them, His children. Dorcas is currently a Project Manager and PA to the CEO at Timeless Women of Wonder (TWOW), in Nairobi Kenya. She is an Alumni of Daystar University where her values of faith, courage and integrity were clarified and molded to transformative servant leadership, a journey she is still on.

She currently blogs at www.dorcaskoome.wordpress.com


For more information on how to support students like Dorcas, click HERE

The Smile of Grace in Motherhood: Part 3

Editor's Note: This is the third in a four part Mother's Day series written by 2013 Daystar alumna and Daystar U.S. scholarship recipient, Dorcas Koome. Part 1 can be found HERE

Motherhood: The Place of TrustHe is ALL Sufficient

I was amazed to know that El Shaddai—the all sufficient, more than enough love of God is compared with a young one contentedly nursing at their mother’s breast. El means “strong one,” and Shaddai originates from the word for the breast in Hebrew. Just as the breastfeeding baby is totally dependent on her mother to survive, God is our protector, nourisher and comforter. David said that God taught him to trust while at his mother’s breast.

Yet you brought me out of the womb; you made me trust in you, even at my mother's breast Psalm 22:9, NIV

If motherhood is the place where so many life-shaping transactions take place in the life of the young children, why would God give this huge responsibility to fallen, limited persons like me? If you are a mother, you definitely know those moments…times you are so sure that this is what you would rather be doing and then there are times when you wonder how you’ll pull through another day. You look at the innocent life in your hands and you want to be the best mother they will have. Sometimes you cry along with them. On other occasions, you are bone-tired and you wish somebody could take them away long enough for you to feel yourself!

Motherhood is a journey not a destination. Motherhood is a journey of faith. Faith that what the word of God says is true and you believe it. Every season from infancy to toddlerhood to preschool to childhood, preteen, and teenage will come with different highs and lows for the mother. It’s a journey full of the miraculous. God has a place in his heart for mothers. Mothers’ prayers for their children touch the heart of God.

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These words I am speaking to myself even now as I pen them down. Fellow mom, remember you're not alone. This is the message that has become my life motto. Cheering another on! I believe this is the transformative servant leadership I learned at Daystar University. Because I have been at a very low point, I want to encourage another. So they don't fall to the bottom. Or if they've fallen I want them to know they can get up. I am here to hold you. We will not allow the enemy to isolate our wounded soldiers so that he can devour them. We'll hedge them in and encourage them to get up and fight for their lives. We'll not allow fear, guilt and shame to chain us to our past. We'll remember we are not alone. We'll remember the COURAGE our Savior had fighting for us against the powers of darkness. He descended to the depths and resurrected and ascended on high, taking away the power and sting of death and sin.

This Easter God ministered to my soul in profound way. Those words:  IT IS FINISHED made new sense and I had fresh revelation. Of the magnificent power available to us. That Christ is risen and He’s on the throne. That THE LORD IS GOOD.

 The LORD delights in those who fear him, who put their hope in his unfailing love. Psalm 147:11

MAMBO YOTE SAWA. IT IS WELL WITH OUR SOULS.

The resurrection power of Christ is alive in us and we are free in Jesus name. This is what inspires me about the journey of motherhood. You are often unsure. Am sure dads are too at times. It's even more real when long distance characterizes your marriage. To be honest there are the tough days. You feel so alone. So lonely. You want to wish you can snap your fingers and change things. In those moments you can numb, medicate with vanity, grumble, or share with your spouse with honesty and hope for compassion and pray with childlike faith to God who hears.

As moms, we just need to stop holding on to God and let ourselves be held by him. In the arms of the God who will never let go as the band Casting Crowns state in their song Just Be Held. Our attitude matters. When we're weak He's strong. As we are juggling the balls of life, dealing with personal issues and learning on the job, He is faithful. He will not let us fall or fail. He will uphold us; let us allow Him to hold us.


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Dorcas Koome

An advocate of hope, a wife, mother, lover of children, homemaking and photography - a child of God. Dorcas is married to Steve. Her passion is in speaking the heart of God to broken, wounded hearts all around shaped by low self-esteem, rejection and loss of identity. After overcoming a bout of depression and hopelessness, she decided to focus on encouraging and challenging single and married women to find their worth in God and keep showing up knowing that even behind the perceived or real closed doors, God is always working to fulfill the good plans He has for them, His children. Dorcas is currently a Project Manager and PA to the CEO at Timeless Women of Wonder (TWOW), in Nairobi Kenya. She is an Alumni of Daystar University where her values of faith, courage and integrity were clarified and molded to transformative servant leadership, a journey she is still on.

She currently blogs at www.dorcaskoome.wordpress.com


For more information on how to support students like Dorcas, click HERE

The Smile of Grace in Motherhood: Part 2

Editor's Note: This is the second in a four part Mother's Day series written by 2013 Daystar alumna and Daystar U.S. scholarship recipient, Dorcas Koome. Part 1 can be found HERE.

Motherhood: The Place of RestRest for the Soul

Words That Set Us Up for Success

I am learning to serve my family from a place of rest. Knowing I am not alone. I can boldly approach the throne of grace that I may obtain mercy and find grace to help in my time of need. I am continually yielding myself to the leadership of the Holy Spirit. We underestimate the help we need at our own peril. The arm of flesh will fail; we dare not trust our own.

I remember when I accidentally overdosed my daughter on Calpol (children's Tylenol in the U.S.) after the 6 weeks vaccination. It was the medicine meant to be a painkiller to ward off any fevers. I called my husband and explained everything. He was working out of town that time. I had decided to operate on the principle of truth since we got married. I wasn't going to lie to him about this. He who hides his sin will not prosper.

I called the pediatrician who told me to observe her for 10 minutes and see the progress. Those were too long to wait. I took the baby, told my nanny to accompany me to the children's hospital without divulging too much detail. At the waiting room, I was trying to be strong. Those were the longest minutes of my life. We didn't know the level of the painkiller in her blood. The nurses tried to locate a line in her blood vessels to no avail. She wept. I had to hold her through the entire process. As I held her I knew the truth - I had failed. As a human being. As a mother. How could I recover from the pain, the shame and the guilt? I couldn't envision that one day BRAVE will have to face the reality that she had been overdosed—by her mother.

The voice of the enemy told me as much. I broke down and wept. My heart was caving in. Who was I now? I remember receiving this text from a friend, and I believe He was used by God to remind me who God said I am, and how He saw me. It said in part, "you are the only mother BRAVE will ever have; you're the best mother she will have." Those were the words of God to a broken heart, a wounded soul. The words that set me up for success. I know that God used that moment to wake me to His intention for me in motherhood - to choose to listen to the voice of truth. There would be no other argument. No other pretensions. I was totally imperfect... but He chose me for the job. I had to do it but with His resources. We were admitted for 2 days for observation. The neonatal specialist came and by God's GRACE the baby was fine. God has a sense of humor… The neonatologist that came was our pediatrician! She didn't scold me (I expected it). She was very supportive. She encouraged me to keep showing up. (Side note neonatologists are very few in Kenya.)

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My take-out from the experience was knowing am worthy as I have been chosen by the creator which gives me confidence to want to be the best mother to BRAVE. I also read and reread instructions on medication before I give it. I am a better person. I am a better mother. I know my worth in God. I find rest for my soul in God alone. And when fear or despair comes, I speak to my soul—literally. I actually have sticky notes all over the house to see the word of truth and remind myself. At the sink to see as we brush our teeth. In the bedroom. In the living room. I put the truth in front of my eyes using sticky notes on my walls before me. I speak to myself the truth of God's word. I preach to myself. 

"You are your own preacher and occasionally you must say the kind of speech to yourself that enables you to be productive and accomplished." ~ Bishop T.D.Jakes

These words from the song Worthy by Cece Winans have literally become my words:

oh my soul

You have not been left alone

For He counted us worthy, so let’s be worthy

Just trust and know

You're strong enough to carry on

He counted us worthy, so let’s be worthy

The Power of Prayer

I pray by speaking God's promises to me back to Him. Many times I have held my daughter when it’s too tough and prayed over her and myself. I have seen miracles. Like when she couldn’t latch properly on the breast. Like when her appetite was so poor and her she was dropping her weight. In simple ways God reassured me that He was present and knew just what we needed at that moment. Burdens have been lifted off my shoulders – striving to be perfect in my strength is eliminated. I know am a victor because God didn't make me junk, He set me up for success by creating me in His likeness and image. Thus my daily choices must be a reflection of HIS glory. Even when I don't feel like showing up! When I would rather hide under my covers and hibernate. 

Through sincere, relentless, continuous prayer as mothers, we are enabled to serve our families from a place of rest. I would love to assure any mom struggling that you will make it through the rough patches. There are some things only God can resolve. The personal struggles and battles that even if my husband could understand and wanted to help me but he would still be limited.  Yes those! God understands. He is your father. He is your friend. He is willing and ready to help.


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Dorcas Koome

An advocate of hope, a wife, mother, lover of children, homemaking and photography - a child of God. Dorcas is married to Steve. Her passion is in speaking the heart of God to broken, wounded hearts all around shaped by low self-esteem, rejection and loss of identity. After overcoming a bout of depression and hopelessness, she decided to focus on encouraging and challenging single and married women to find their worth in God and keep showing up knowing that even behind the perceived or real closed doors, God is always working to fulfill the good plans He has for them, His children. Dorcas is currently a Project Manager and PA to the CEO at Timeless Women of Wonder (TWOW), in Nairobi Kenya. She is an Alumni of Daystar University where her values of faith, courage and integrity were clarified and molded to transformative servant leadership, a journey she is still on.

She currently blogs at www.dorcaskoome.wordpress.com


For more information on how to support students like Dorcas, click HERE

The Smile of Grace in Motherhood: Part 1

Editor's Note: This is the first in a four part Mother's Day series written by 2013 Daystar alumna and Daystar U.S. scholarship recipient, Dorcas Koome. 

Motherhood: The Place of ResponsibilityRaising Future Parents

The roles of a mother are nurturing, comforting, and teaching children within the family context.

She is responsible for homemaking, supports decision making and is the certified gatekeeper for meals, clothing and the atmosphere of the home. We turn houses into home. We turn groceries into meals. We turn smiles into love from the heart. By God’s design mothers are multi-faceted and wear many hats. Whether one is a working or stay at home, motherhood is a big responsibility. Our words and actions, our choices and desires strongly influence how the children grow and the fulfillment of God’s plan for their lives. Our prayers are very powerful. Some mothers are married, some are single moms, some are widows, some have had miscarriages or have lost a child. Motherhood is a noble calling entrusted to us by God. Motherhood shapes our lives in deeply transforming ways.

Motherhood, as with parenting as a whole is about knowing you are partnering with God to raise future parents. In his book, Raising Future Parents, Dr. Stanley Mukolwe says that you can choose when to marry, you could even choose when to get children but you cannot choose when to parent. They grow so fast! Whether you consciously participate, you are parenting. Naturally, you as a parent want to set your little ones on the path to success. That is where the challenge comes in. Having unresolved past issues, the fear of trying too hard and failing, receiving tips from many people around you all leave you in a messy camp.

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I wish I could speak for my daughter BRAVE about her mother. Her dreams and wishes. I will instead speak for myself and other moms and hope our words and actions reflect our dreams for our daughters and sons. Motherhood is a gift we've been given; an honor and a privilege. We don't choose the gift. We simply need to pull our sails up and trust God with the results.

From now on, you and the woman will be enemies, and your offspring and her offspring will be enemies. He will crush your head, and you will strike his heel. Genesis 3:15

Those words spell war, blood and tears, joy and victory. This is what the journey of motherhood is. Soft and prickly. This and that. In the midst of the chaos, there is beauty, giving birth to beautiful chaos. Motherhood is worth it, especially when you experience the smile of grace. Unmerited favor that changes everything including YOU!


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Dorcas Koome

An advocate of hope, a wife, mother, lover of children, homemaking and photography - a child of God. Dorcas is married to Steve. Her passion is in speaking the heart of God to broken, wounded hearts all around shaped by low self-esteem, rejection and loss of identity. After overcoming a bout of depression and hopelessness, she decided to focus on encouraging and challenging single and married women to find their worth in God and keep showing up knowing that even behind the perceived or real closed doors, God is always working to fulfill the good plans He has for them, His children. Dorcas is currently a Project Manager and PA to the CEO at Timeless Women of Wonder (TWOW), in Nairobi Kenya. She is an Alumni of Daystar University where her values of faith, courage and integrity were clarified and molded to transformative servant leadership, a journey she is still on.

She currently blogs at www.dorcaskoome.wordpress.com


For more information on how to support students like Dorcas, click HERE

Daystar University's Afrizo - 2018 Tour Recap

It seems like just yesterday when six students from halfway across the world stepped out of the airport in Minneapolis and were greeted warmly, despite the sub-zero temperatures. What followed was a whirlwind month of singing, dancing, serving, laughing, and ministering with people of all kinds throughout the country while sharing the mission of Daystar University. These students exemplified the sort of people Daystar is developing - creative, intelligent servant leaders equipped to transform Africa. 

 2018 Afrizo team - Daisy, Barbara, Daniel, Manasseh, Caroline, and Priscilla

2018 Afrizo team - Daisy, Barbara, Daniel, Manasseh, Caroline, and Priscilla

The team was presented with a large task to undertake - 25+ shows in 28 days across 5 states. The goal of the tour was to raise funds for the mission of Daystar. These dollars will help to advance existing projects and allow more students the ability to receive a life changing, Christ-centered education. They sang in schools, churches, retirement communities, living rooms, and cafes. They saw the snowy mountains of Colorado and heard the waves of the Atlantic Ocean hit the shoreline of Florida. They danced with preschoolers and prayed with retired missionaries. These ambassadors shared their testimonies and helped forge new connections with Daystar University.

STATES VISITED:

Minnesota | Pennsylvania | Colorado | Florida | North Carolina

What follows below are snapshots from life on tour, and some reflections on the month from the team members themselves. 

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Thoughts on host homes:

“we created a bond and we will never forget any of them.” - Caroline

“we see many things in the media that are not true about America and it was nice to see life here for what it is.” - Priscilla

“I loved the moments we sat at the dining table to talk about God, life, Daystar, and music. Those had the most impact in me.” - Manasseh

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What tour taught you about servant leadership:

“To be a great leader, I have to be very selfless, intentional about leading as well as serving, and be able to see others through God’s eyes.” - Daniel

“Leading is not always about being at the forefront. It can be staying behind to make sure that everyone is ok, that no one is lagging alone. It can be doing the final sweep of a room after everyone has left. It is following Jesus and it is a lot of love.” - Barbara

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How tour has changed your worldview:

“I had no idea the level of love and support people had for Daystar, and the desire they all had to see our students excel in their studies.” - Daisy

“There are a lot of good people around the world who are looking for an opportunity to make a difference in somebody’s life through donations, advice, and something as simple as a smile.” - Daniel

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Favorite part of tour:

“I did enjoy the beauty of the mountains in Vail. It was overwhelmingly beautiful.” - Caroline

“Going ice skating with a host family, Priscilla and I slipped a couple of times (I fell many times) but it was so much fun. An ice hockey coach had pity on me and gave me a mini lesson on how to not be a newborn giraffe on the ice and by the end of the night I could sort of muddle my way through skating sans a rail.” - Barbara

“Every time we got on stage and I would see the people moved by the Spirit through the music.” - Priscilla

 Daystar U.S. staff and the 2018 Afrizo team

Daystar U.S. staff and the 2018 Afrizo team

A huge thank you to everyone that helped make this tour so special. The host families that opened their homes up to house the students and share life with them. The students that acted as tour guides to show what their schools and communities had to offer. The churches that hosted events and worked so hard to promote them. Those who attended the concerts and sang and danced. Those who prayed for the team as they traveled, especially during snowy drives and delayed flights. Those who donated to ensure that Daystar University can continue to grow and educate the next generation of African leaders.

This year's tour had a goal of raising $60,000 which has not yet been fully met. Though the month may be over, the opportunity to give in response to the blessing of Afrizo is not. Tours such as this rely entirely on donations and can only happen when they prove to be financially sustainable. If you did not have a chance to give this time around and would like to, or would like to increase your donation, please click the button below. It is only through the generous support of our donors that Daystar U.S. is able to continue to provide teams like Afrizo the opportunity to share the good news of the work God is doing in Africa through Daystar University.

Thank you, asante sana.

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